When u get older you realize that love is indeed a choice. It’s not rainbows and butterflies. It’s not a quote from a romantic movie or a cheesy line from a Nicholas spark novel, not even a scene from new girl, I am not jess nor anyone is my Nick. Love is a choice. To be with someone is work. Sooner or later, relationships become real. It’ll be about the time, distance, differences, families… it’ll be about bad habits that can never be broken. It’ll be about what you need, not what you want. It is messy. It’s a decision you have to make whether to leave or stay. But never blame yourself. Time allow people to grow. Decisions make us stronger. We move on. People walk forward, and we should- cause time is precious. No time to walk backwards. Like those folks who get awards from guineas. Make everyday count. Spend it with people who add joy to your life. Spend it graciously and selflessly. Even selfishly! It’s about time you do things for yourself. Life is not about finding someone. You should be able to see love in everything you do. Whether it had be by simply walking in parks, smiling to a stranger, making conversations, travelling, serving your church, or just by simply being in your day. We have days when we have no clue what were doing, but it should not be wasted procrastinating, over-thinking. There are a lot of things going on in this world that are far more important than the length of your bangs, or the difference between fish or seafood, or which photo is cuter. Solitude is a blessing if you make it. It allows you to discover parts about yourself you never knew existed. Who knows, you might start liking who you are. We all have our journey. We have a purpose. Life is about nATURE allowing you to love, accept love, and be loved. That is a beautiful thing to practice every single day. Everything is temporary in this world. Time is running. Lives change, people change, change is so constant that it shouldn’t hurt anymore. Especially, if it feels right in your system. And lastly, life is not about me telling you what it is about, we will all eventually figure that out. But definitely not from a Murakami Novel.